Feedback Thoughts

Well if you can not tell I am supposed to give a feedback on the certain articles that Shaun has given that I have chosen.

Here is what I have to say about the 2 articles that I have chosen.

A Fixed Mind Could Be Holding You Back by Anna Kelsey-Sugg 

Ways to develop a Growth Mindset:

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  Just Appreciate

  Acknowledge and embrace your weaknesses
• View challenges as opportunities
• Try different learning tactics: what works for one person may not work for
  you
• Replace the word 'failing' with the word 'learning'
• Make a new goal for every goal accomplished
• Value the process over the end result
• Celebrate growth with others

Changing how you think

If you recognise yourself as having a fixed mindset and are not happy about it, do not worry. (In which this is my case).

A growth mindset can be learned  but it requires having strategies for dealing with adversity.

1. Ride the wave. 

Thoughts are just a bunch of concepts produced by your brain. They have no emotion nor inherent meaning. You are the author of them and you assign them meaning by how you interpret and respond to them. Just like waves in an ocean, some thoughts are strong and others are weak. Teach yourself to recognise that your thoughts are separate from who you are and allow them to freely come and go. 

2. Find an Anchor

We all need an anchor, or in other words, we all need something to believe in when our thoughts are wavering. Whether you are religious, have a spiritual connection with a higher power, or have someone who grounds you – hold onto it.

3. Step out of Your Comfort Zone

As mentioned above, we all have a comfort zone. Like a turtle, we feel cozy and safe inside our shell, but to change your thinking, one must be willing to step out of that shell no matter how much that shell feels like home.

Why Rejection Hurts So Much by Guy Winch

Rejections are the most common emotional we face in our daily life. Our risk of rejection used to be limited by the size of our immediate social circle or dating pools. Where each of us are connected to thousands of people, any of who ignore our posts, chats, texts, and leave us feeling rejected as a result. These kinds of minor rejections, we are still vulnerable to serious and more devastating rejections as well. 

Even if  the rejection we go through is big or small, one thing that will  always happen is that it does hurts, and it usually hurts more than we expect it to.

"The greatest damage rejection causes is usually self-inflicted. Just when our self-esteem is hurting most, we go and damage it even further".

Now there are better ways to respond to types of rejection. Here are just some of them:

Have zero tolerance for self-criticism: 

When whatever happens review what happened and consider what you should do differently in the future but there is absolutely there is no good reason to be punitive and self-critical while doing so.

Revive your self-worth:

Don’t compare yourself with others. When you have low self esteem, the success and fortunes of others will seem like a blow to your ego. 

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  Rejected

  Find comfort in being alone. Some people tend to lose their identity whenever they are in a relationship. The end of an affair often puts them in limbo as they have become too attached to their partner.
• Explore your passions. Anxiety and depression can be triggered by burnout. So it pays to explore the world and find new challenges or endeavours that will be of interest
  to you and keep you going in life.
• Engage with people who share your interests, passions and dreams. Seek out like-minded people and get them into your circle. You’ll find out that there are many people out there who have pains and struggles in life that are similar to yours. 

Boost feelings of connection: 

Meet More People: If you don’t know a lot of people and you barely meet one or two new people every season of the year, considering the variety of individuals out there, you won’t meet very often people who are a good match with you in terms of personality, interests and values.

Connection

Talk about the Things That Matter To You: Talk about the things that truly matter to you and give others a chance to know what you care about and what you believe in. If they believe in the same things and they care about the same things, they’ll eagerly let you know. Thus you’ll find meaningful common ground and you’ll feel more connected.

Be There for Others: Connections between people grow sturdy if they can rely on each other for support when it’s needed, whether that support means a few kind words or several massive actions. Your support will help them practically, and it will comfort them emotionally; which makes one hell of a difference in a relationship.

Thanks fro reading my Feedback Thoughts, Bye ;)

- Tochi